A lot of people, once they reach a certain age, do not relish the thought of moving to a new job. Why? They worry that they will not fit in at the new office and that they will have to start networking all over again; the energy required to maintain the level of social connection gets more and more exhausting every year. So, no, most people after a certain age no longer feel excited when they change their working place. But, being liked and being ‘social’ at your new workplace doesn’t have to be a struggle – there are certain tricks that will make you popular among your colleagues soon enough.
Open with a Smile
If you are nervous about speaking to anyone, simply smile at them. At least that way they will know that you aren’t some grumpy frump. As you walk into your coworking space in the morning, smile at the person sitting next to or in front of you and maybe greet them. After a few days they will definitely speak up if you have not already done so. This will segue way into a conversation and make you feel better. Remember, the first contact may only be a line or two. It does not have to meaningful conversation about your goals for the next 10 years. If your smile elicits one in return and maybe prompts someone to ask you about your day, you’ve made some progress into entering the social network in the office.
Learn to Listen
Whenever experienced workers move to a new job, they are always full of stories and experiences they want to share with their colleagues especially in a meeting room rental or prestigious office. Unfortunately, if you haven’t been there long and you start speaking about your life it comes off as arrogant and boastful. Learn to listen instead; wait for someone else to start a story and use it as an opportunity to learn more about the culture. Add a line or two in there to show that you are listening, but at the beginning, do not speak unnecessarily unless specifically asked to do so. Once your co-workers know that you respect their opinions, they will not feel bad about you expressing potentially different ideas from them. If not, it will come across as threatening.
Ease Yourself In
If you have just replaced someone, remember that your colleagues probably had a relationship with him/her and they may not be too keen that someone (you) literally replaced them. So don’t try and don’t overcompensate either. Wait your turn, follow the above guidelines and then ease your way in. this is also true if you’ve been appointed as management. New managers have tons of new ideas and may sometimes force them on their team without realizing that that’s what they’re doing. Listen to your team, give them time to adjust to you and hear their views on something before rolling out your own plans. It will cause less stress and tension.